If you are asking this question, then listen to your gut and make sure that the correct questions are being asked.
I told my primary care doctor and therapist that I had a drinking problem when 1-2 glasses of wine a night was a regular thing. They both thought I was being too hard on myself. They asked me standard, outdated questions that missed my cry for help and the current DSM-V standards for alcohol use disorder.
- Have friends or family members made negative comments about your drinking? No
- Do you drink in the morning to fight a hangover? Never
- Have you had problems at work, with the law, etc because of your drinking? No
- Do you drink and drive? NO
Okay, then you are fine. There is nothing wrong with a 1-2 drinks a night with a meal or to unwind. WTF?
They didn’t LISTEN to my plea. I KNEW that I was falling into full on dependence and into addiction. They didn’t believe me because they have bought into the myth that there are alcoholics and everyone else. Laura McKowen wrote a great post in response to a reader’s question, Am I an Alcoholic?. She reframes the question and assumptions people make about “healthy drinking.”